Does anyone really care

Practice meditation or prayer. When you're upset, visit a quiet, private place. Natural surroundings work especially well.

Sit down and focus on deep, slow breathing. Many people learn to improve their mood through meditation or prayer. If you're having negative thoughts like this, try to pause and ask yourself if what you're thinking is really true.

Instead of focusing on these thoughts, try to find compassion for yourself. It can be hard at first, but finding opportunities to volunteer can be a great way to get yourself out of your own head. Not Helpful 47 Helpful Whenever I tell my friends that I am depressed and having urges to kill myself, they say I'm being stupid and then they slap me. What should I do? Paul Chernyak, LPC. Stop talking to these "Friends" and seek professional help if you have suicidal urges.

Also seek out support both online and locally through support groups and mental health organizations. Not Helpful 58 Helpful Be proactive and start inviting people to join you instead. You may be surprised by how many positive responses you will get. If you start to actively care about others, you will usually start noticing that others will care about you in return.

Not Helpful 97 Helpful Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. Your value does not depend on the approval or acceptance of other people. Be content with your own approval. Live your life. Helpful 6 Not Helpful 5. Don't let the people who put you in this situation and drag you down. Show them who the better person is by refusing to give up or appear defeated. Helpful 2 Not Helpful 3. Distract yourself. Get a job or join a sport in which you are interested.

Helpful 4 Not Helpful 1. If the people who don't care about you are your parents, talk to a teacher or counselor. They can help you get to the right people or agency. Helpful 1 Not Helpful 1. Volunteer in your community! Getting involved, sharing time, talent, and interest where people genuinely appreciate your effort and kindness show love and support for others. Meanwhile, you are doing something positive for yourself!

A real two for one! Sometimes you may not be able to think of a time when you were happy, or proud, or even peaceful. Don't worry, this is only because you are in that hole. There's a moment; you'll find it once you feel better.

Helpful Not Helpful If this feeling persists and leads to severe thoughts of suicide, immediately call the suicide hotline at 1 Commiseration can be a great comfort, but after a point the conversation should turn to improving your life.

People who dwell on negative events tend to stay depressed longer, even if they talk about it with friends. Helpful 2 Not Helpful 1. Related wikiHows How to. How to. Expert Interview. More References 4. Many of us are afraid to reach out to our loved ones for help.

Yet only by facing your fears will you ever stop feeling lonely. Plus, volunteering will provide you with a community of like-minded people who can become close friends. By entering your information on the Tony Robbins website, you agree that we may collect and use your personal information for marketing, and for other purposes, as set forth in our Privacy Policy, which we encourage you to review.

What can we help you find? Generic filters Hidden label. Hidden label. Sign Up Now. Read More. Get Tony Robbins' articles, podcasts and videos in your inbox, biweekly. All rights reserved. Sometimes you may feel like nobody even cares. You do not have to be alone to feel lonely; you can feel lonely in a crowd.

It is not the number of people around you that determines your loneliness; it is your relationship to them. Somebody said that a city is a place where you can be lonely in the midst of tens of thousands of people. I personally know that feeling. Living in Cincinnati I can remember the Sunday afternoons when I felt so lonely, a long way from family, and in a city where they didn't even know my name. We are becoming an increasingly lonely society.

Since , the percent of Americans who admit to "feeling lonely" according to an Easterbrook Survey has quadrupled. Twenty-two percent of all Americans ate dinner alone last night.

A Gallup poll recently stated that 3 out of 10 Americans are lonely. Many college students who are for the first time away from home cry themselves to sleep. Many people have possessions without peace. And gradually, you become mean to people and lose the essence of a true relationship with them.

This human body comes with an expiry date too. Therefore, whatever life You and I are left with, must be spent to make it meaningful and joyful. Try to look at the bigger picture of your life.

If you think that for someone to be right, others have to be wrong, then you need to understand that there could be two right things and both can be different. There is not always only one truth. There can be more than one versions of the truth. Remember, everyone is perceiving one thing or the other and they have their own version of the truth.

And if you always consider your version as the correct truth and ignore others, people will stop showing interest in what you say. Understand different versions, different perceptions, and perspectives before reaching any conclusion.

When you interact with people, you feel great to pull their leg, pass a witty comment, make fun of them or talk them down. Is it so? During your college life, you must have enjoyed such things with your friends. Once in a while, it might be fine when you are with your close friends.

But making it a habit and always trying to win every argument or point by insulting others, is a very foolish thing to do. It makes them feel bad and insulted. Imagine yourself in such a situation where you are treated this way. Will you feel good? Nobody wants to be treated this way.

In your office, during a tea break, you might love to gossip about a colleague and do character assassination. You might enjoy criticising or talk ill about them behind their back. But ask to your inner conscience, is it something right to do? If you think someone is not doing something right, go and tell them rather than talking ill about them with others.

It not only creates negative energy in your work environment but also shows you as a person. Such a situation can happen anywhere, in your college, with friends or even in your family. It does no good to anyone. So, refrain from doing it.

If something is wrong, have the courage to go and talk to that person or just keep it to yourself. In this world, most of the people will come to you only when they need something from you. Due to this, you might feel all alone. You need to understand that being alone and feel lonely are two completely different things.

People often mistake being alone as being lonely. Being alone is absolutely fine. In fact, it gives you ample time to understand yourself better and become comfortable with your own true self. But being lonely is not ok. It is when you start feeling incomplete with your own self and seek someone to either validate your feelings or approve that you are awesome. I know you are genuine and really awesome. So, please believe in yourself. Be friends with the one sitting inside you.

If you are alone. Take this as an amazing opportunity. Practice meditation, go on solo trips, read good books and autobiographies of great people, learn some new skill. Think of impacting lives of other people in different ways and leave a legacy behind you.

I have befriended my own self and am very much comfortable with my feelings. I love to create things which can impact people in a positive way through my Book, Blog and YouTube channel. You too can explore different ways to be comfortable with your own self and do something to spread love, care and compassion. These are based on my personal experience with people. Although you should not care too much what others think about you, you cannot ignore it completely because you have to operate with people.

You cannot operate in isolation. How you make others feel about them, they will do the same with you. If you really want others to care about what you think and feel, try to touch their lives in whatever way you can. Stop forcing people to understand you and your feelings, rather focus on becoming more self-aware. Be a witness to the life and experience it like you experience different tastes of food. Always remember, that true freedom is not about doing whatever you want to do, it is about not getting affected by whatever happens to you.

Take control of how you feel. Expand your life, not by how much you have but how much you give. Look at the bigger picture of life. Hello Your all content is unique from other sites. Thank you for sharing your all experience with us. Thanks Vijay. The only people who include me in their lives do so when they need something from me, whether money, time, support, whatever.

Once they get whatever it is they need from me, they ignore me. The closest thing I have to friends to spend time with is a couple people who every now and then will let me tag along as long as I stay in the background and do exactly what they want.

I am never picky about what we do, where we go, who is there, anything. There are things that I would prefer, yes, but no one cares what I want so Ive learned to keep that to myself. This is not a situation where I just need new friends at this point in life. This has been every person I have had in my life, including my family.

How I feel or what I want has never mattered to anyone. All I do is give. So I keep it to myself. And if I had just a couple friends that cared about me, I would be that person exactly. But no one sees me as worth any effort….. Or the alternative is, there are some people that just have no significance and never will no matter what they do.

I hope the first is the correct one. But what I have seen in life leans me towards believing the later. If I were to vanish tomorrow, the only living creature that would be impacted emotionally at all would be my dog. I do believe she would miss me. Hi Dear, I understand your situation and got your point. First of all, thank you so much for taking time and expressing your views. I know it takes a lot of effort express oneself fully.

Coming to your query. Most of the people in this world are like this only. I have been through same situation. But what I have learnt from such phase is that there is difference between being alone and feel lonely. Being alone is absolutely fine but feeling lonely is not. What I mean by this? After such phases, I started exploring about my interests and skills. I started making myself better in those areas.

In fact, being alone gives me a lot of time which I can spend with myself. Looking at it from spiritual perspective, it is an amazing opportunity to understand about the basic meaning of life and existence.

Not to be sad about it. Rather exploring how life is expressing itself in various forms on this planet. Practicing meditation, writing journal, reading good books, autobiographies of great people and thinking about how we can create an impact in our won life and in this world too. Thinking about how we can leave a legacy behind us. Always remember, you are awesome. Because you are the only one like you.

God bless you! At times most genuine and honest people like you face such difficulty and I can completely feel the pain that you feel completely abandoned by your family and even worse case when by your own parents. This is nothing to do with you as a person. We all exists on earth by sheer love and compassion from God..

You could never ever get than from any other human. Please love yourself and then everything fall in place. Loads of love and blessings to you! Yes, if your operating from a narrative that your the centre of the universe then, yes, it is applicable. The only thing that will be emotionally impacted will be my dog. Well guess what?

Guess what? The best thing you can do and the best present you can ever give yourself is to not give a shit yourself. I hate to say this but you have to beat the world at its own game and not give a shit too. Why waste your time with people like that?! You are the only person that can make you happy, nobody else can, trust me. The harsh truth is; people suck! Let the mindless masses worship their own selfishness and do something for yourself cause Lord knows…..

Give a shit less about others and more about yourself. Stop expecting people to be human. Screw those people; blow them out of your life like a turd out your ass because they are truly shit! Seriously though, they are; why waste your time. Sure, give people a chance but feel free and be ready to flush at any time. Sure, they were closer to him than me but they still abandoned him when he needed them most.

Their selfishness is not your problem. So this means that the people that are loved are perfect and are not under any item of this list. Got it. Hi Maria, thanks for stopping by and reading. Nobody is perfect.